23 and clueless

The 23 year old girl I work with came home from a cruise with her boyfriend with a diamond ring on her finger. It's not an engagement ring but sure looks like it could be. This has generated a lot of questions from people and most are relieved to hear they are not planning to marry at this point. There are many issues that need to be worked out first. Two guys where advising her that if she was to get married at the point in the ceremony where they ask if there is anyone with just cause that this could should not be wed speak now or forever hold your peace they would be jumping up and down saying don't do it don't do it.

It was funny and I have to say I would be jumping with them. Then the very sensitive 23 year old she wanted to get married in the next few years. She didn't want to be old when she had kids. What do you think I should wait till I am 30 and too old to have kids. She looked at me and revised it to 35 then realized there was no way out of what she said so she continued on with how women over 35 should not have babies because they will have birth defects and be stupid and have all kinds of problems. She didn't that to happen to her.

I really don't think of myself as old I guess to a 23 year old I am. I didn't think 35 was old when I was 23.

When I was 23 I didn't want to be 35 and not have kids yet either. It is my reality. I wonder if she had any idea how much her comment hurt me. I doubt it. She is 23 still completely self absorb. I don't think she has ever put someone else's feelings about her own.