Lesson's from a coffee shop

I was reading a new blog that I found a link to on Len's blog. I found a Post that reminded me of a story, below is a copy of my comment on the blog.

When I see a man out with child and no women it makes me smile. You can see in the child’s face that it is special time for them. (Ok the ones old enough to realize it) The structure of our culture has the children with the women or upper middle class land with the nanny (9xs out of 10 a female)it is a rare sight to see father with children.

Dad’s are cool they say yes to things Mom would say no too. I work in a coffee shop, we sell gooey sticky stuff that kids love. I see a lot of families and I know who belongs with who. One time a cute little boy looked up at his Dad with these huge begging eyes for a frosted with sprinkles doughnut. Dad ordered the treat, I laughed. The little boy smiled jumped up and down. I handed the bag over and the Dad asked why I had laughed. I told him that the boy asks for a treat every time he comes in here and Mom always says no it’s not good for you. The Dad said oh maybe we should put the doughnut back. Little crest fallen face on boy. I said no you should get it. These are the things he is going to remember about you 30 years from now, the special moments of a rare treat and time with you. The boy got his doughnut. The Dad comes in now almost every Saturday, sometimes he has his little boy and sometimes he has his little girl they always have a treat and sit and eat it together at the table talking. The little girl is about 2 now and the little boy is about 4

Does anyone have a special memory of their Dad? For me it was when my Mom went away for a weekend with Grandma and the Aunts. The Dad's where left at home with the kids. 3 Dads 6 kids. Can you picture it. :-0 All of the Moms left food cooked just heat and serve. The Dad's stayed home a played with us that weekend. We saw the Uncles and cousins a little but mostly it was Dad time. All the food Mom cooked was feed to the dogs. We went for Pizza. Funny enough we ran into an Uncle and cousins at the pizza place. It was a great weekend. Nothing huge happened it just was but here it is 30 years later and I think on that weekend and smile.